I was reading a sweet young friend's post tonight about crying in front of her children. She had decided it was not a bad thing to do and she is absolutely correct.
I really remember very few tears that my Mother ever shed in front of me. This passes on to me the necessity of hiding my tears from others. I can't tell you how many times lately I have turned away so as to not cry in front of another. How many times I have changed the subject so I would remain "in control". I have literally told others-"I can't talk about it," more times than I care to say.
A Christian friend recently told me that I should be truthful when asked how I am. Most of us automatically respond, "Fine". He told me to be truthful and it was alright to say you are not fine.
Old habits die hard--I don't know if I can respond truthfully to how I am and letting the tears flow would be very out of character. How am I---Not always truthful about how I am.
4 comments:
it's okay if you aren't strong all the time. you are surrounded by strength from your family, your friends, and most importantly, you God. i think i speak for everyone when i say, be weak and we will be your strength...i love you
ann
This is unrelated, but I thought it would make you happy to know that we accidentally ran over an armadillo in the road on the way home the other night. Tristyn asked what we had hit, so we pulled up a pictures on our phones and showed her. She took one look and said, "I don't like armdillos. They're yucky." :)
Oh boy. I'm in trouble then. I have a 5 yr old and a 6 yr old. I have had a very tough year with the deaths of two family members and dealing with my sister having breast cancer. So my children have seen me crying. I can't help it. Of course, we have everyday joys and laughter too, despite this hardship. But yes, they have experienced their mom crying and they do seem to understand in some way...and they comfort me and then we turn it around and go play! LOL
"Laughter through tears is my favorite emotion!" If only we turned to Steel Magnolias and Forrest Gump for every life lesson, I think we would be a-okay! Ha! Thanks for your sweet comments on my blog and I know your strength is abundant! Let it roar!
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