We Southerners are trained to be courteous at ALL COST! NEVER hurt some one's feelings---always turn a positive spin on any comment you make to another. "Do you like my dress?" 'Why yes, it is really unusual---stands out in the crowd.' (Translation-there's not another dress here as ugly as yours) "Your hair looks great---I would have never thought of that style myself." (Translation---WHAT WERE YOU THINKING!) "Why your baby---looks just like his granddaddy!" (Translation---he looks like an old man) We just can't seem to either avoid a comment---or just not make a comment!
I am struggling with "Truth Telling" to those that God is putting in my path. Here is one truth I discussed with a friend this morning----Do NOT complain about your spouse! You have a spouse---they are with you---they have not left you! If things are not good---then tell me what you are doing to make them better. If you don't have anything in common---what are you doing to find something that you do have in common? You certainly have your children--in most cases---grandchildren--in some cases. There was SOMETHING there that attracted you---so that you wanted to marry this person---CORRECT?
NO relationship is "Easy Street"---because we are ALL placing ourselves on the throne and NOT giving self-lessly. What was the Christian movie about marriage---"Fireproof" or something like that. Have you tried--even for a few days to put the other always first--no matter the response? What are YOU doing to make your marriage better?
Here is my "Truth" for today----IT IS DIFFICULT TO BE ALONE! We are created---read Genesis---to be in a relationship---starting with our spouse--then our children---and on and on. As a friend told me this weekend--without another---we are not-balanced. THAT IS TRUTH!
So I am working on telling my sweet friends and loved ones--truth---even when it may be painful and not what they want to hear. We all---ME INCLUDED---need truth!